\u201cMarriage is work\u201d! Does that statement strike a chord? Do you feel as if you cruised through dating and courtship, only to drive into a rugged terrain in marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Many couples bemoan the stark difference between marriage and dating. In marriage, there\u2019s a need to exert oneself both mentally and physically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The effortless love enjoyed during dating loses its ease, morphing into work. Who messed with the terrain? Did God design marriage as hard work?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My best friend in high school and I were joined at the hip. We had vowed to be best friends forever. We could not envision life without each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We vowed to scale mountains if we had to, to keep our friendship ablaze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Needless to say, after hurtling off to different Universities, we lost touch faster than we could say \u201cfirst year\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s not a single relationship on the face of the earth that thrives without the input of the parties involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s a need for constant communication, physical meetings, celebrations, and support for each other during tough times<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Couples feel as if they cruised through courtship and dating because the relationship was mostly fueled by romantic love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Powered by overzealuos Oxytocin, relating with each other felt effortless. But let\u2019s be honest, romantic love eventually grinds to a screeching halt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your heart eventually stops racing, and you cease getting breathless when your macho man or damsel walks into the room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This means that you both need something else to latch onto. Romantic love is replaced by intentional love, aka work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So yes, as a husband, you will need to listen to your wife\u2019s winding tales, show her affection, and date her regularly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As a wife, you will need to prioritize sexual intimacy, respect his decisions, and compliment him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You will both need to meet each other\u2019s needs, and that requires effort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is highly recommended that you learn your partner\u2019s love language and speak it fluently if you want to enjoy a thriving marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cBut I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord -how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world-how he may please his wife.\u201d (1 Corinthians 7:32-33).<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Paul wished that all men were like he was. Single. Free. Untethered. However, he acknowledged that each person had their gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He had the gift of singlehood while others had the gift of marriage. He advised those who could not exercise self-control to go ahead and marry (1 Corinthians 7:7-9).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\n\n\n\nBeing unmarried, Paul couldn\u2019t care less (pun intended). He only cared about pleasing the Lord. But for his married counterparts? He didn\u2019t mince his words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They had their work cut out for them. They needed to constantly conjure up ways of enthusing their spouses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Choosing to get married is like consciously stuffing more clothes into your backpack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If it feels heavier, it\u2019s because you needed an extra jacket and scarf. To whom much is given, from him more is required (Luke 12:48).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So if you are blessed with a spouse, roll up your sleeves and get to work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
God Has High Standards for Marriage<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
God points to the relationship between Christ and the church as a guide on how couples should relate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is a mind-boggling standard in every sense of the word. Wives are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Husbands, on the other hand, are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, giving up his life for her (Ephesians 5:22-28).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Quite frankly, these are astronomically high standards. Couples can only heed them through God\u2019s help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It can feel rock hard for a wife to submit to a flawed husband. It can be gruelling for husbands to sacrificially love their equally flawed wives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Heeding this command will require spouses to deny themselves and die to their flesh. You bet that\u2019s work. Hard, gruelling work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Allow God to Build Your Marriage<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cUnless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it; unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain<\/em>.\u201d (Psalm 127:1).<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Marriage takes work from both spouses. However, without God, all our labour will amount to zilch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Millions of people across the globe have tried to build great marriages without God. Sadly, their efforts have gone belly-up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
King Solomon observed that only by wisdom can a house be built, and by understanding established (Proverbs 24:3).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
God wants couples to build their marriages through the wisdom nestled in His word. He wants couples to mimic the wise man who built his house on the rock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When the rain, floods, and the winds pounded against the house, it did not keel over because it was founded on the rock (Mathew 7:24-25).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So yes, marriage takes work, but when couples follow the wisdom in God\u2019s word and rely on His grace, it is possible to build formidable marriages that glorify God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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